When Ryan and I got married, the idea of a First Look was never introduced to us. In fact, we had no idea it was even an option. When it came to planning our wedding, we pretty much just did whatever we thought we were “supposed” to do.
The first time we were introduced to a First Look was actually by one of our amazing couple’s (Morgan and Rob) on their wedding day. We were going through the motions of their wedding day… doing everything that we were “supposed” to be doing and then Ryan appeared in the Bridal Suite unexpectedly to deliver a message that Rob wanted to see his beautiful Bride before she walked down the aisle. Caught off guard, but excited about the chance for them to see each other, we rolled with it and arranged a meeting for them. It was MAGICAL! Really, beyond magical! That moment where they saw each other for the first time and were able to soak each other in with a warm embrace forever changed the way I feel about wedding days!
From that magical moment on, we now make it our responsibility to introduce the First Look to all of our potential clients. Many Brides & Grooms are already aware of The First Look as it is becoming more and more common. However, most of the Brides & Grooms that we meet are either totally against the First Look because tradition tells them to be or they are totally in favor of The First Look because it will give them the chance to be at their cocktail hour and have fun with their family and friends. Both ideas (for and against) are definitely reasons to take into consideration when deciding whether or not to do a First Look. However, for us, after witnessing so many First Looks, they are the least important reasons to take into consideration when deciding about whether or not to see each other before the ceremony. Instead, getting our couples to think more about how they want to share their day with each other is so important to us and often can be the deciding factor for or against The First Look.
In order to get a feeling for what First Looks can be for Brides and Grooms, we asked Allison and Tom (another one of our amazing couples) to share a little bit about their First Look experience in hopes that it will share a first hand experience of this magical moment.
Why did you choose to do a First Look?
Allison: At first I really wanted to have a first look to be able to enjoy the entire time of the cocktail hour and reception with our guests, most of who traveled from out of town. As we got closer to the wedding, I realized that I wanted to share the entire day with Tom. If I had to wait the entire day without talking about everything with my best friend, I don’t know if I would have made it! The only detail of the wedding that we did not plan and pick out together was my dress and I was so excited to see Tom’s reaction, that again I don’t think I could have waited until the ceremony.
Tom: Allison actually thought it would be a great idea so she explained what it was and I thought the same. She was right. It really helped ease the stress. First look also allowed us to spend time together and have some fun before all eyes were on us at the ceremony/reception.

Was the First Look everything you hoped it to be?
Allison: I absolutely loved our first look. The setting is so relaxed that you actually get to see your husbands’ reaction to how beautiful you look and feel! I felt that we could take a minute, really see how we both looked, and have time to tell each other what we were thinking and how much we loved each other, without having the nerves and jitters that accompany walking down the aisle, where everyone sees you for the first time at the same time, and then having to repeat your vows.
Tom: I really didn’t know what to expect. It was definitely nice to see Allison before everyone else. Being able to have those first moments to ourselves was really very special and something I will always remember, not only a mental picture, but also those emotions and feelings that overwhelmed me when I first looked at Allison.

What was your favorite part of doing the First Look?
Allison: My favorite part of the first look, was seeing Tom’s face up close when he turned around to see me. It was a look of love and amazement. Then he managed to say how much he loved me and how amazing I looked. I was so glad that we were able to spend such an intimate moment before all the craziness began!
Tom: My favorite part was, of course, seeing my wife to be in her wedding dress for the first time. She looked absolutely beautiful. I also have to say that when I heard she was in route to the first look the nervous anticipation was also fun. Getting all those feelings out of the way before the ceremony was a great stress reliever for both of us.

For many of our grooms to be, they are against The First Look because they do not want it to take away from “that moment” that his bride walks down the aisle. So, I asked Tom to share how he was feeling when Allison walked down the aisle during the ceremony.
Tom: I felt like the luckiest man in the world and really realized how much we loved each other and how great our life together was going to be. She looked so awesome that I knew the rooms eyes were now on her for the duration!

And just one more thought from Allison: I would definitely recommend that couple choose to do a first look. You are able to have an intimate moment and express all your emotions to each other before all your family and friends arrive. Plus, I was definitely nice to be able to enjoy our entire cocktail hour and reception with our guests! You put so much effort into planning every aspect of your wedding day, that it is nice to be able to enjoy all the fun!

Hope this is helpful for all of the future Brides and Grooms! If you want to chat more or have other wedding related questions that we might be able to help with, please definitely let us know! We are here to help!
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